Written by Kelly Roberts
I hate being rejected. Not included. Left out. Who hasn’t experienced this? Whether it be being excluded from a birthday party or chosen last for a team; “unchosen” (by a loved one or spouse) or not being chosen at all, rejection stinks!!
I experienced my latest major rejection yesterday as a long time friend told me that a newer friend was going to be her matron of honor.
After I received this news I listened to this video I came across just a couple of days previously. (God knew this was going to happen and provided this in His perfect timing.)
I drove home with tears in my eyes, praising and thanking God for His being Sovereign and protecting me from this role in her wedding. I didn’t feel thankful and don’t know what He’d be protecting me from but God is in control of everything and everything works for good for those who love Him (Romans 8:28). Therefore, this is for my best! Every closed door is a blessing and I can rest in this fact.
When I got home I told my husband what happened and he told me that he had a similar experience several years ago. At first he was disappointed but then he was thankful that he didn’t have to be in charge of anything and he could just show up, have a good time and eat!
Last night I woke up in the middle of the night and was feeling rejected. I looked at a list of attributes of God that I have on my phone and read that God is The “Peacemaker.”
“You will keep him in perfect peace, Whose mind is stayed on You, Because he trusts in You.” Is. 26:3
I realized that this is what I was missing- His peace because I wasn’t trusting Him with this and I was too focused on my hurt feelings and pride of being overlooked. I got back to sleep and when I woke up this morning I felt a little better but not all the way.
After my quiet time, I emailed a new friend, my prayer partner in my Bible study, and told her about this and asked her to pray for me. She said she’s been hurt by friends too and would pray for me. I am feeling better today than yesterday; thank you, Jesus! You are my Peace and I trust You with this! You have something better for me; and for my friend getting married. I am thankful that next year at her wedding I can just show up, have a good time, and eat! 🙂